Since the rise of social media platforms the tendency to turn mean and loud really quickly seems to take a strong foothold on anything posted. I have seen this happen on personal profile updates of all sorts, political discussions and certainly very often on images posted on models’ and photographers’ pages.
Have we forgotten how to be nice? Do we not know how to debate anymore? Can we not state our opinions without trash talking for no real purpose? Are we all so insecure that we have to turn aggressive as soon as somebody questions our opinions?
Obviously in the current political climate there are a lot of heated debates going on, but why do they so often turn very insulting really quickly? Where is all this hate coming from? Was it always there and has just been kept under lock and key by a society that was becoming less tolerant of this sort of behaviour? Has it now been unleashed as the ‘shouters’ feel they have been validated by the likes of Farage and Trump?
But it’s not just obvious hot topics like politics that have turned very sour. I have also noticed that people get attacked for things that were actually meant to be positive messages, like posting an image of their new born, boasting a bit about weight loss or any other great event that might have just happened and were deemed important enough to share with the world. Suddenly comments pop up saying ‘I can’t have children, so posting your new born images is really insensitive.’, or ‘great you can lose weight but there are lots of us that can’t, so stop bragging!’…. I have actually read both of those comments and still find them unnecessary.
Have we become so self-absorbed that we think everything we read is immediately aimed at us and our current life situation?
I know there are real insensitive posts out there and I wouldn’t tolerate misogynist, homophobic, xenophobic etc. statements either, but not everything out there is either aimed at upsetting somebody else and not everything needs to be criticised!
Obviously I mostly encounter weird comments on images I post, which I just tend to delete and not bother answering. But I do wonder why people find it so important to leave these comments in the first place. If I see an image I don’t like for whatever reason, I just move on…..I don’t say anything at all. I don’t see why I should feel the need to write something like ‘That’s ugly!’ or ‘Eeewww….disgusting’ (just two of the less nasty comments I have deleted)
Maybe more and more people just lead terribly boring lives and they feel threatened by people that seem to have a bit more fun or confidence then they have.
I guess in the end it says way more about the person writing a nasty comment than it says about anything or anyone they are trying to criticise, but it still seems so unnecessary and pointless.
So with online bullying becoming a real problem and online harassment on the rise, how about we all try to write something really nice under somebodies posts once a day or whenever we engage on social media and try to let the unimportant things that annoy us go without reacting to them at all. Just try it…maybe?